I was flipping through a magazine the other day, and came across this ad for a Honda CR-V. I was a bit startled by its sentiment, which is one I’ve heard from many friends. “Before I get married I want to…”
I’m sorry, but if getting married means you wouldn’t be able to do anything on your bucket list anymore, then why are you marrying that person? I think every item shown on this list would be more fun with a partner. And if your partner DOESN’T want to be on a superhero kickball team with you, then I think it’s time you start looking for someone else. Seriously.
Stop putting off life decisions or exciting opportunities because you haven’t accomplished something yet. Don’t wait until you’ve lost those last 10 pounds to make your awesome cosplay outfit. Don’t give up a sweet job or opportunity because you’re not sure if you’re ready to move or if your friends will still be there. And don’t put off marrying the person you love because you haven’t experienced everything by yourself yet. You will still be you. You can have your independence. You’ll just have a partner waiting for you when you get home or right there with you, supporting you and cheering you on.
Are you putting off a big life decision? What’s holding you back?
Totally agree! There is absolutely no reason that getting married should slow your dreams down. I think I’m actually dreaming bigger after getting married over a year ago!
Adina, same here! My husband has pushed me to follow my dreams even more than I did on my own.
A+ post! Especially when people talk about marriage almost as a death sentence. Why is getting married the be-all end-all moment of your life? Ugh.
Thanks for posting this!
Managing your expectations about life is worst decision you can possibly make in this day and age. Heck, most of that list would even be more fun with kids in tow.
“..then why are you marrying that person?”
You hit the nail on the head right there. I’ve never understood why people insist on being with someone or getting married if they flat-out state it’s going to be lame and boring. It should be something awesome that you’re excited about, or else why the hell are you doing it??? And who are these significant others that PREVENT people from following their dreams?
I guess what I’m trying to say is that if you think marriage will be the death of adventure, your relationship has a whole lotta problems that don’t have anything to do with marriage.